17 Again Pt 5: Liang and the Domestic Female’s Journey

Have you ever noticed how much is talked about Strong Female Characters? (Also known as SFC) I don’t mind a strong women protagonist leading the story, as long as it’s realistic, and the character is still acts like a female​. I don’t like girls that have to act like guys in order to be strong. That just defeats the point.

See, some people push the unrealistic SFC, girl power stories, and ladies that “don’t need no man”; but I rarely find that way of doing them very appealing. In those stories, the girl either has no interest in domestic things or men, or worse, they totally stomp down on them. Because after all, womyn are SO much better than those pig-like men! But what about something I can relate to? Like being strong AND having a man?

17 Again was that story. The character is like most other girls, she wants a good life, a good home…. And a family. But she is held back, by herself as much as by Mao. Wanting to be a house wife is not a bad thing. Indeed, it is a very good and noble thing to strive for. Running a household and raising children is certainly not without its challenges. But I can agree with feminists and the like on one point, you shouldn’t be a mindless house wife with absolutely no life outside of your husband. Even the quiet house wife should have hobbies, something she enjoys or is passionate about. However, this is the rut we find Liang stuck in at the beginning of her journey.

The strong domestic woman is a very important force. I have more I’d like to say on her, but I shall save that for another post. For now, it is enough to say that a good society wouldn’t be able to hold together without them. To me, Liang’s Journey is in her going from a passive, clingy girl, to an intelligent and passionate woman. You’ve heard of the hero’s journey? Well, this is the domestic woman’s journey!

So what makes Liang change from a lame not-house wife, to an awesome woman and possibly real house wife? I think the biggest answer is she rediscovered her passion, and then worked for it. In some ways, she took on the actions of, “I don’t need no man” kinda girl. She kicked Mao away (although, admittedly, that was Little Liang’s doing) She went off and had her own fun and adventures, and she created a career for herself. She had dreams and passions, she perused them, and made them a reality. However, unlike the “don’t need no man” girls, Liang still wanted her man. But before she could have him, she had to learn to live without him. She had to learn to be strong in herself. Only then, could she have the relationship she always wanted.

See, good men don’t want a child for their wife. Some people make marriage out to be a man making all the decisions and dominating, while the woman stays quiet and goes along with whatever he says. That is askewed idea of marriage. Only bad men with control issues take advantage of their wives like that, and it is women without confidence in themselves, who have too many insecurities, that let them. But think about it. How much of a tiresome burden would it be to have a spouse that you have to do everything for? Who can’t make their own decision and opinions? Who has no ambition? Who sits around cleaning and making food while you do everything else?

That’s a maid, not a wife.

Men, good men, want someone to be on the same level as them. They want a partner, not a dependent. Because life is hard, a man wants a woman who can support him as much as he supports her. Now keep in mind, men and women are different, so the way they support and help each other will be different. But the point is, honest men don’t want a pretty-faced, mindless maid for a wife. They want a strong woman who inspires them, whose beauty shines from the inside out. One who will make a house into a home to come back to, and who will be there to catch them when  life is heavy. Someone who they can dream with, and make a life with.

Liang is not that woman when we first meet her. She got one part of it right; she’s there to take care of Mao and make a nice home. But she missed that part about having that deeper level of confidence and support. And because of that, her actions fall short, and somewhat superficial. The nice breakfast cannot be everything, there is something deeper that she is missing. And because of that, Mao has never bothered to marry her.

It’s not until Liang finds confidence in herself that Mao really starts to see her again. Gone is the drifting, shallow Liang. Now she is strong and confident in herself, she glows with the joy of her younger years. She has made herself a woman worthy of great attention and love. And because of this, Mao sees his short comings. He realizes that if he wants to keep this new Liang, he must change and become worthy of her. Because Liang has made herself great, she inspires Mao to make himself great as well.

At the beginning,  both of them are stuck in a rut, and have all but lost their love for each other. Love is  tricky, it’s something you must work to maintain. But by the end, once they both have grown, they are able to come back, stronger, and fight for each other and their love. Very pro-marriage. And I know, they weren’t technically married, but they seemed very much like a divorcing couple. But instead of giving up, they grow and learn, and eventually come back together. This is sooooo refreshing to see. I wish more movies and stories would give that same message of hope. That you shouldn’t give up on marriage just because it became boring or hard. That love is worth fighting for.

Because of that, 17 Again has a very superversive feel. But that is not the only reason. Liang is the focus of the story, the change in her relationship is provoked by her personal journey. And so it was her journey that left me with the greatest feeling of hope and inspiration at the end of the movie.

As someone who is still young and full of passion and dreams, but who also has a desperate desire to never let go of my inner child, I really connected with this movie. I wish to keep that joy and wonder at the world that a child has. I want to have passion to create and chase my dreams. I’m getting a taste of adulating and what real world life is like. With jobs, responsibilities, money, and bills, I’m discovering different kinds of stress and troubles that sometimes weigh heavy on me, and I don’t like it very much. But as long as I have my imagination to run wild, and my stories to get lost in, I can keep my younger self alive, and I’ll be alright. But….. If I ever lost that, if I ever stopped writing and imagining…. Well, the thought is truly terrifying.

And so the story of Liang finding her younger self, reconnecting with her passion, making herself better, and working for her dream, is very moving. She has adventures, learns from her mistakes, makes her dreams a reality, and gets her man back – even better than he was before! She became a stronger woman, but not a womyn. It’s hilarious, it’s refreshing, it’s inspiring, and it is superversive. Plus, there was chocolate! And in case you couldn’t tell from the FIVE articles and 5000 words I’ll spent on this thing, I really really loved it!

Hope you enjoyed my absurdly in-depth look into this movie! Time to go eat some chocolate.

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3 thoughts on “17 Again Pt 5: Liang and the Domestic Female’s Journey

  1. I put off answering to this post because of time constraints.
    I’m not any more relaxed now than I was 15 days ago, but I either write something now or forget about doing so altogether, so here are my sparse toughts on the matter:
    1) This series of posts is incredibly thorough and well thought out. Seeing the movie the impressions I had from it matched but you Made such a perfect job putting them to paper that I want to see it again.
    2) The passage on how Liang bettering herself inspired Mao to better himself is absolutely spot on, as are the passages on how a couple requires two persons doing their best for as long as it takes. Again You speak of things we understand or know by experience in a perfectly clear way.
    3) I think there are interesting parallelisms between the “domestic woman’s Journey” as You put it and the Scriptural prescriptions on family life. Scripture put the man at the “head” of the family unity in likeness to how Jesus is at the head of the Church, with the implicit assumption of continued abnegation and sacrifice (that’s the part people tend to forget).
    Now, If I might be so provocative, who would sacrifice himself for a girl without a personality, interests, confidence, an inner light of her own?
    And on the other side of the spectrum, What girl would submit,in a scriptural sense, to a deadpan snarker without motivation?
    Again prescriptions that have been mischaracterized as chauvinist were actually sane all along and conducive of a relationship between the sexes based on bringing the best out of one another.
    To conclude, very good job and thanks for this review!

    • I’m so glad you enjoyed it, makes the effort of writing it worth it 🙂

      “Again You speak of things we understand or know by experience in a perfectly clear way.”
      This made me laugh, because I have very little experience myself. But I do think and observe things. And this is the way God intended us to interact. Everything from God is truth, and one can always look for and study truth.

      I like your point on the scriptural prescriptions on family life, and the domestic woman’s Journey. I agree. Everything about Marriage has been attacked so much over the recent past, that people have forgotten it in everything but ceremony, and they can’t even keep the vow a lot of the time. It’s truly heartbreaking. There are still many whole families, and hopefully they can provide and light and example that is desperately needed.

      Thanks for stopping by and reading!

  2. “This made me laugh, because I have very little experience myself.”

    Yeah, I said “We” as to mean your readers 😉 It goes to your credit that You would understand such things without direct experience.

    “Everything from God is Truth”
    Amen.

    “…and they can’t even keep the vow a lot of the time.”

    Vow keeping and faithfullness to one’s word are passè in this age, unfortunately.
    Not for long yet, We hope.

    “There are still many whole families, and hopefully they can provide and light and example that is desperately needed.”

    I suspect We were both very lucky on this respect, And this helped us out immensely.

    Have a nice day!

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